I heard this today, and thought about it in the terms of weight loss. No one can make a person do anything they don't want to do. I can't make them think about me in a certain way, talk about me in a certain way, anymore than they can make me do the same.

So, if that is true, I choose how I will react and act to another person. I choose whether I give them control over me to force me to eat something that isn't healthy for me. I thought right away of my mil taking me out for pie and coffee the other night. I didn't have any, and she was miffed. I drank my tea, and shared conversation with her, but she was angry that I wouldn't have a piece of pie al a mode with her. I politely declined reminding her of my diabetes and wi
in two days, but that it didn't bother me if she ate hers. She can't force me to eat it, or order it. Anymore than I can force her to do something.

To me that gives me a whole bunch of freedom from the control of someone else. I am in charge of me, and that's all I can ask for.

That's so true Cathy. One of the advice columnists (Abby or Ann Landers) would always say, if someone puts you down or insults you don't accept it. If they offered you a gift, you wouldn't have to accept it, so don't accept the insult either.

Same can be said of peer pressure to do something you don't want to do. Don't accept it.

Dawn