My mom brought my dh a box of Belgian chocolates today. They were milk chocolate hazelnut which he hates and I love. I must have made a face when my mom gave them to me because she said "they aren't for you, they're for Chris".
I wasn't going to say anything and just toss them but in the end, I came out and just said that he doesn't eat hazelnuts. My mom without skipping a beat or getting upset, super graciously offered to give them to my grandparents who will love them. I said a million times how much I appreciated the thought and dh would too.
I was proud of myself that I said something and super proud of my mom for being so cool about it.
This was one of those times that it paid big time to be honest. Not only did a box of chocolates not go to waste (or too my waist), but my mom wasn't even slightly taken aback and now my grandparents will be able to enjoy them.
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
Good for you, Brie! It seems most of us (esp. women) are so programmed not to rock the boat and not want to say anything in these circumstances but, sometimes, I think it's good to just be honest.
I had a similar situation with my mother sending me cheese and sausage baskets for Christmas, with homemade candies, jams and such made by the Amish. I had been bringing it into work and then my colleagues started to grumble about me eating healthy but pushing my fatty foods off on them. So I just took a deep breath and asked my Mom not to send it anymore. I know it's what's easy for her because she sends the same package to my brothers...but I just didn't want to have to deal with it anymore and it would break my heart to throw or give it away and then lie to her about it. So I was honest and her feelings were hurt a bit and it was a little awkward, but it wasn't a big deal.
This past Christmas, I received an item off my amazon wish list from her and, on the gift card it said "Hope you like it. It's not cheese!" and I know there was a bit of an edge to that message but I laughed my silly little head off! All in all, I'm glad I was honest. And I actually got something I WANTED for Christmas so it was a win-win situation.
Posts: 7864 | Location: Rehoboth Beach, DE | Registered: March 12, 2004
That was good Brie!! My mom would have handed me the box and said "These are for Phil, don't you eat them!!"
She would not have offered to take them back and I would have happily walked off with my own box of chocolate that I would later have to beat myself up over eating!!
Posts: 1393 | Location: West Florida | Registered: March 12, 2004
That was good Brie!! My mom would have handed me the box and said "These are for Phil, don't you eat them!!"