Big hugs, Laura. I am dealing with the upcoming one year anniversary of my sister's death. It's a lot to be with.
I'm just working to keep on keeping on in the best ways I can. Keeping food in line helps me cope. Overeating always makes me even more emotional and irritable. I keep reminding myself.
Today would have been my dad's 60th birthday. That in itself really threw me for a loop, I'm not old enough for either of my parents to be 60 anything. At least in my head I'm not.
I KNEW today was my dad's birthday, but wasn't really bummed out about it until my uncle (who I'm sure meant well) emailed my sister about my dad's grave having two huge oak trees over it (they were pretty darn small when he died 25 years ago), and a little league baseball field within viewing distance. And how much dad would have liked seeing the field from the shade.
Now I'm just sad (and peeved that I'm so unglued) all of a sudden. But I'm posting here because this could easily throw me off the rest of the day emotionally, which then leads to screwing up several good days when I get home for dinner. And after dinner.
Okay, I'm off to figure out how to pull myself together since I'm stuck at work for 2.75 more hours. (And I already got my run in this AM, so at least I'm ahead of the curve and won't try to ignore going to work out because I'm depressed.)
Life is like a roller coaster, with lots of ups and downs, but the curves, spirals, loops and corkscrews are what make life interesting.
I am glad to hear they think it will all be okay with your father. I am sorry to hear about your sister. That is hard. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. The stress of taking care of family all the time can be hard. Speaking of family. We took DS into the doctors yesterday. On monday they are going to put two screws into his arm and then re-cast him. I hope things go that simple. I am hoping none of this triggers another seizure. If it does we will deal with it, but he has been through enough. I took him to McDonalds yesterday. It has a play area. I got him to play for a while. That helped for a little while. I was able to relax for a little while and was able to take him shopping for a card for his cousins birthday. By the time we got to their house however he was back in full form. At least there was more help in watching him. Finding a place to get him to want to play that he has less chance of hurting himself can be hard. But at least I have some sanity back. Michelle
Originally posted by BrenauMom: I went with him to his diabetes doctor yesterday (first time I have been) and found out (when he told his doctor) that he has not been taking his meds or his insulin and he can not remember for how long (his sugar was 400).
Wow, Judy, your Dad is lucky to be alive being off his meds that long! I know it's going to be tough, but you're going to need to ride herd on him from here on out to make sure he's taking them. I seem to recall you saying that your family doesn't eat meals together, but maybe you could go out when he's having breakfast to make sure he's taken them?
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Now I hear from my best friend that my sister is in the hospital with an anyurism. She has had migrains since she was a teenager and has had a bad one for the last 4 days. On the 4th trip to the ER they admitted her.
Due to their condition (especially daddy's right now) they don't want our parents to know about it yet. I agree that it would not be wise to tell them.
DH died from an anyurism
Update: Just had another call that she is being released with a couple of perscriptions. That doesn't really make me feel any better. Especially since I know how very far, far away they live from any help. I have heard of too many people who have been released and then died at home. My friend sounded so happy about it that I didn't voice my concerns to her.
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Originally posted by Brie: [...] Could your dad's confusion be temporary because of his high blood sugar?
The doctor seems to think it is. Hopefully it will clear up once he gets back on schedule with his meds and everything.
And I found the "missing" meds (after getting the new refills from Kroger). They were in the kitchen cabinet, right where he keeps them. At least I assume it is the ones he thinks were lost. They are the same ones Kroger just gave me and they are all dated about a month ago. There are two meds on the list the doctor gave me that are not in the cabinet and were not in the group Kroger said he last had refilled (& I just had duplicated). I guess I need to see if Kroger has perscriptions for them and if so, get them filled.
Hugs Michelle, I'm so sorry things are so difficult. Is there any sort of respite care available to you from professionals or people trained for this sort of child care? I'm not even sure where to ask. Maybe through the doc treating his ADHD? Maybe a special ed teacher in the area might like to make a little cash?
I have been worried about mother for years but now daddy is really starting to scare me.
Ever since the fall on Mother's Day he has changed. His memory and mental confusion is suddenly almost as bad as mother's (and it took her years to get there). He is having trouble knowing what day of the week it is and could not understand the date on his appointment card. It said 7/1/09 and he was thinking that his appointment was on the 7th. He could not get it straight in his mind that the 7 was for July so I scratched out the 7 and wrote in the word July and he could understand it that way.
I went with him to his diabetes doctor yesterday (first time I have been) and found out (when he told his doctor) that he has not been taking his meds or his insulin and he can not remember for how long (his sugar was 400). He says the last time he got his meds refilled, he lost the bag and doesn't know when that was. I just checked with Kroger this morning and the last time he picked up a refill was a month ago so they are just doing another refill (have to go back and pick them up).
Oh Michelle! I'm so, so sorry you are going through this. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. I hope everything goes very smoothly with the surgery on Monday and that the adjustment to the new medications work quickly.
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
and he can not remember for how long (his sugar was 400). 
