In the mirror, I see...hair that's never quite right, a cute face, still not looking as old as it is, a horrible double chin, good upper body, big hips, fat legs, cute feet....and I hate that my chest is, overall, my "defining feature", if that makes sense. There's worse, I suppose.
A best friend would see hair that's never quite right (but that's what makes it perfect), a cute face with makeup that's always applied suitably for the situation, lots of freckles, an hourglass, plump figure, and flat shoes. What's with ALWAYS wearing flat shoes? Her feet would look great in heels!
To someone who's never met me, I imagine I'd be described as short, brunette, blue eyes, funny, smart. And the boyfriend (who qualifies as a best friend) always mentions "a great rack." Thanks, honey.
Challenge Goals: *10 minutes of unplanned exercise five times a week *Gym time twice a week *Socialize at least once every two weeks.
When I look in the mirror I see someone whose body has long since passed the best before date. Both as a whole and in detail I'm sort of "off". If I don't look in the mirror, I can use words such as talented, creative, reasonably intelligent, temperamental, scared, difficult, angry, loving, funny, frustrated, complaining...and poor self-esteem.
How others see me is anybody's guess. Fat, maybe. Short, very likely. My friends would probably describe me as funny or as someone with personality. They would be careful not to describe me physically other than hair color, height, glasses, etc.
If my friends were to see me the way I see myself on bad days, I wouldn't have any friends.
****************** “The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then, your body and your fat are really good friends.”
My friends see a competent, cooperative, loving, kind, giving, self-sacrificing, talented woman filled with causes.
I see, a tired, scared, tenacious, angry, bitter, talented, woman filled with causes. I know it's not all positive, but I don't feel very positive right now. I feel as if, somethings are over, and I didn't get to vote on them. I feel like the zenith ready to rise up out of the ashes, yet I need a little more rest before I am strong enough to rise up. I'll do it, just maybe not today.
It's never too late to get it right.
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Like Brie, it depends on my mood. Generally I am happy with what I see from the neck up. I like my hair, my face. Now, my body is a whole different story. I see cellulite, bingo wings, flabby stomach. But, I do have days-and it usually has to do with my outfit-where I feel great and think I look really great too. I too compare myself to others-but I don't think that losing weight and getting fit will change that. Even when I was thin I still felt flawed and wanted to change my body. I have been trying hard to work on liking myself, no matter my pants size or how much cellulite I have-not an easy task. I am trying to talk more positively to myself when looking in the mirror rather than putting myself down.
Is it the same thing a best friend would see? Hmm, probably not as I tend to be much harder on myself than anyone else would be.
If you're comfortable with it, tell us how you think a best friend would describe you to someone who's never met you.
I have to think about this one.
Jill
Summer Challenge Goals: 1) Walk 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week 2) Plan weekly menus
It so depends on my mood and unfortunately lately, my mood has sucked.
Last Friday night, I felt sexy, slim and attractive when I looked in the mirror with my new wrap dress, my hair straightened, etc...
This morning, I felt dumpy and was focusing on my cellulite and problem areas.
Part of my problem is that our bathroom mirrors cut me off at the widest part of my thigh and I always feel like I look terrible. Our only full length mirror is in the workout area in the basement. Occasionally I'll go down there as I look better in "full length" when I know I need an attitude adjustment.
I'm kind of feeling like I did when I was a kid again - instead of being happy with myself, most days I focus on the negatives, compare myself to others and feel very flawed. Now that I've been maintaining for over 4 years, I want more but I also know that won't be manageable for me over the long haul. To get thinner now would mean zero desserts, no eating out, no alcohol at so much of a restriction that it just wouldn't be worth it to me.
I just wish I could get back to how I felt when I first lost all the weight and felt great about myself. It seems like it's been worse for me this month after being sick since I can't seem to focus on the good things my body can usually do for me. Part of me feels very resentful that I'm eating well, exercising and taking good care of myself and I keep getting sick anyway and it's rubbing off on my self image.
As far as how a bf would describe me - the words people usually use are athletic, buff, toned, fit. A couple of people have used "little" but other than being short, I don't think "little" is the right adjective.
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
