We have certain things we harbor inside... festering. Let's set them free. Today. It can be related to anything you feel like telling us. Don't you feel better after you put it out there and set it free?

Mine is- my job is making my anxiety attacks to come back.

Since I've spent the last two days doing my own version of this homework in another thread, I won't add anything to vent.

Jill, I'm always humbled when I have the opportunity to "walk" in others' shoes, if even for only a minute.

Bill

I want to send hugs out to everyone who posted in this homework, and to those who didnt too. As I was reading through the posts I came to the realization that so many people are out there hurting and many, many times I am so focused on my own issues that I feel insenstitive towards others. This homework not only let me vent my frustrations but opened my eyes to the realization that for right now things are not so bad for me but really seem to be for many of you.
Prayers and hugs to all of you and I hope things start turning around for you.
Jill

Laurie: So sorry to hear about your dad. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Laurie I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

Mountaingirl...I had a friend like that too. We had been friends since middle school. I always referred to her as my best friend and one day my husband said "YOU are her best friend, but she is NOT your best friend." It turns out that he was right. Eventually, she quit returning my calls, for no reason, and so finally I quit calling. It still hurts and that was 3 years ago. However, while it is difficult to make new friends as an adult, you can do it. Don't put effort into something that is making you miserable.

Finally, I have several "issues" this week. #1 is that my husband's job is intolerable. He has been working outrageous hours for over a year, but it is getting beyond the point of sanity. I think last night was my breaking point. Our son wouldn't go to sleep, because he wanted daddy, and I woke up at 2am to find he still wasn't home. Of course, the adrenaline rush started and my mind started "OMG, where is he? Is he dead in a ditch somewhere?" So, I called and he was still at work. He got home around 5:30 this morning, was going to sleep for an hour and a half and go back to work?!!? This is just insane. My husband is a corporate accountant. He isn't in a job that is really known for working 24 hours a day around the clock. He's not a tax accountant so this isn't "tax season" for him. At first I was trying to support him, but it has gone on for too long, and he is letting them use him. At this point, he needs to either stand up for himself or find another job.

Which leads to my second stressor, which is child misbehaving because he needs his father's attention.

And then the third issue is a school re-districting issue that is going on, which should be getting some of my attention but I have too much else on my plate. I swear I live in the MOST ridiculous county and school district on the planet. Everything turns into a law suit.

UGH!!!!!

I have a feeling this is going to be effecting my eating too. I know it shouldn't, but all of this is getting to be too much.

I know this was supposed to make me feel better, but I am on the verge of tears right now I am so frustrated.

Dawn

Laurie,

I feel so sad with you - it is truly a paradox to have new life in your body while you are watching your father's illness, isn't it. So much good and bad smashed together. I commend you for seeing things as they are and not as you wish they would be, though. It will actually decrease your stress to look at your days that way. Be here now, even though it is tough, because resisting what is going on will only make you more distressed. Sorry, I can't help mothering people! I wish your Dad a safe comfortable passage.
When my mom was dying, a Hospice volunteer said something that I'll never forget, and it helped me. We spend our whole lives fighting death, but it is the natural ordinary conclusion we will all experience. The word natural really helped me to accept what was happening as not entirely 'wrong'.

love,
Lynne

Laurie -
I'm so sorry to hear the news too.
I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.
Big hugs to you!

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Today he decided, after talking to his doctors, that he does not want to go back on a repirator. Basically he'll only have a short time (couple of weeks, more or less).

{{{{Laurie}}}}} I'm so very, very sorry to hear this. I hope your dad is as comfortable as he can be and that you and your family find comfort in these difficult days as well. Know you and your family are in my thoughts.

Peg

Oh I could fillup several pages right about now. The topmost is that I hate our local hospital. Yup we live in a small area and only have 1 hospital. My dad has been in there almost 3 weeks. Today he decided, after talking to his doctors, that he does not want to go back on a repirator. Basically he'll only have a short time (couple of weeks, more or less). Half an hour after he makes this decision, physical therapy shows up to show him some arm exercises.... Umm might have been nice a little sooner than 3 weeks into this. Thats is barely the tip of it. There are so many things wrong with the quality of care in that place, it is upsetting.

Really though, the biggest thing causing my stress right now is not being pregnant yet. Dad told me how badly he wished he would be around to see another grandchild. I know there isn't anything I could have done to have one sooner, and I know i have no reason to feel guilty, but I do. A problem with no possible solution, just a bunch of random emotions that need sorting out.

Laurie

Huff-puff, ok. I am really mad at my friend for forgetting my birthday, totally and completely - she really blew me off. And just last month, I made a cake and brought it blazing with candles to her front door. She cried with joy and said I made her whole day. Oh, and I had a gift for her that I'd bought a month before. Yup. That smarts! I feel like this person, though I really value her, doesn't seem to feel the same way about me. I know, sounds like 7th grade all over again. But I needed to whine about it! It's really hard to make new friends as adults, isn't it?

Lynne

P.S. Holly, panic is a b*tch. Please slow down and take care of yourself Been there,hon.

And Cobismom/Cathy - I so know how you feel with your bro! Sorry you are in that situation. I have people like that in my family too.

Wow, I really needed this homework today. I have several things festering inside today and I need to let it out because my frustration is starting to show.

I girl friend of mine and her family insist on visiting or having us over when they are sick. Just last week she came over to exercise with me and her son had conjuntivitis and she had a fever. Then we had a b-day party for my DH and another friend on the weekend and both her and her DH showed up with fevers and coughing. Subtle hints are not working. I cancelled todays exercise session because I heard her daughter had a fever and a runny nose. I am frustrated at her lack of respect for others health. I run a home daycare and do not get any paid sick days. I can not afford to get sick!

The next beef is with myself. I am tired of putting other people before myself. I was brought up to think of others before myself, but I am at the point where I have almost lost myself. I am running around doing things for others and get guilt tripped when I want to spend $$ on a haircut or some new clothes because mine are ill fitting. I am horrible at standing up formyself/arguing. DH is a master, well trained by his mother (a completely different story there). Whenever I try and get my point across I end up in tears.

UGHHHGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, that was better. Thank you for the opportunity to vent. I can now get on with my evening and walk on the treadmill while I watch Lost.

I hate where we live. I hate the house, I hate the town, I hate the state. And I was born and raised in SD. I want to move, yet, dh has a wonderful job which he loves and doesn't really want to leave. I don't know how many times I've heard "bloom where you are planted". Well, I am a lovely daisy and this is one wicked thistle patch of a town. I need to get out, if only for a very long visit.

My brother is eating at me. I can't stand him. I always thought we'd be close being just the two of us. But he is one of the super Christian types who has no - zero tolerance for those of us who have a regular God loving life. He has towered it over me forever, and I am tired of it. He has taken over the affections of my father, and I am just a rememberance since my mother's passing. I dearly love my sil and their kids for the most part. But I want to have NOTHING to do with my brother. I eats me up, because I wanted things to be so different. He won't talk about it, cause he doens't care. He said "when you find Jesus call me"....what?????
I don't want to find "his" Jesus, God has found me and I him. But I can't deal with my bro's religion.

Watch out for the thunder bolts.

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Originally posted by BrenauMom:
The company I have been working for has cheated me out of my holiday bonus money...

That happened to me twice. Corporate America is disgusting. They will blend one quarter with another to dilute a success; they will pull a switch on you and up the ante mid-year when you have a slam-bang great start. They will put you on the chopping block when you've figured out their mistakes and screw-ups and how they misrepresent themselves to the client. No kidding. Disgusting.

Trying to reach some level of peace. Hopefully will start a new job and the new people will have some shred of morals.

What industry is this? Senior care and assisted living! Believe it or not.

Grace

Okay...I'm am fed up with DH's mother and youngest brother. Little bro has a gambling problem and has come to us for money to bail him out, and MIL is throwing a huge hissy fit that we refused to enable him (we believe he'll only use the money for more gambling). She doesn't want anyone to force him to deal with his problem because then he won't be so dependent on her, and might move out of her basement leaving her alone--and after FIL left her 6 months ago she's terrified of living alone. I'm so disgusted at the selfishness...she'd rather he continue gambling out of control but still live in her house than help the rest of us get him into an addiction treatment center (it was drugs before gambling, so his problem runs deep). DH and I are worried that his little brother owes money to dangerous people (recent unexplained back injury and car damage point to being roughed up), but MIL is only thinking about herself. I hope to do better for my kids if they ever need it.

And as for the little bro...man, I only hope no one here ever has to deal with a gambling addict. He's so out of control. He lies constantly about where he's been, where his money goes, what happened to his car, and who he's been with. We've learned that all his credit cards have been frozen with 24K debt referred to collection, and that he's only a few weeks from having his car repossessed--despite making 40K a year, living in his mother's basement, and having no expenses other than the car. He breaks committments to see us so often we've stopped telling the kids when their uncle is supposed to come see them because we don't want to keep disappointing them. He's getting verbally abusive now that we've refused to give him money, and if he won't get help we'll probably have to cut him from our lives, at least for now.

DH is a wreck, and I'm near my last nerve myself. At least my father-in-law is backing us up (well, now it's more like we're backing him up since he's taking the lead), so DH isn't in this alone. But knowing that there's nothing we can do to help his brother if he doesn't want help, and that we can't even get him to see that he's got a problem while his mother continues to offer him shelter from accountability, is really stressful.

So I'm fed up with the whole situation. It does feel good to vent it out, though.

I love it we're all SETTING OUR "STUFF" FREE!!! Out with the bad and in with the GOOD!

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Originally posted by Tayhudson:
Brie,
Are you re-locating or moving to a new house in the same area?
I hadn't read about your move, so I'm sorry if you've told us already.

Dawn

We're in the process of building a new house about five minutes from where we are currently living.

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Originally posted by Bee:
I'm getting quite anxious about having to show our house and have it on the market. I'm confident that it will sell, I'm just dreading the "having the house be perfect every second of the day" feeling as well as having strangers through at the drop of a hat. (I HATE the selling part of moving!)

Brie,
Are you re-locating or moving to a new house in the same area?
I hadn't read about your move, so I'm sorry if you've told us already.

Dawn

I have been hanging on to a lot of negativity from my job. Most of my business is done over the phone and when someone calls with a problem I don't take the time to think about what to say or how to handle it and many times end up stressing over what I said/did and why didn't I do this or whatever. So, I am now taking time, even if it means having to call someone back in a few days, rather than making a rash decision, so I can make the best decision I can and also realizing that these problems, in most cases, are trivial. I am starting to understand that I can't please everyone and that there will be times that I can't fix a problem. I think because I work from home it is very hard for me to let it go at 5 when I stop working. I run a dental staffing service so I have to constantly check messages but have set limits for myself, I no longer check messages after 9:30PM or before 7AM, and weekends I stop checking messages after 9AM Sat morning until about 7PM Sunday nights.
Jill

I'm getting quite anxious about having to show our house and have it on the market. I'm confident that it will sell, I'm just dreading the "having the house be perfect every second of the day" feeling as well as having strangers through at the drop of a hat. (I HATE the selling part of moving!)

I have two things eating away at my peace of mind.

One-the woman (would rather use a different word but will be polite although I have quit referring to her as "the lady") who demolished dd's car nor our insurance company is required to replace the car and get us back on the road. All they have to pay is the current "book value" of the car.

Two- the company I have been working for has cheated me out of my holiday bonus money. I was supposed to log on for 20 hours during these dates, Dec 31, Jan 1, 7, & 8, with a "Schedule Adherence" rate of at least 80%. I worked 3 hour Jan 1, and 17 hours Jan 7 & 8. When that paycheck came it did not include my $100 bonus. When I looked up Jan 1, 7 & 8 on the report labeled "My Performance" on the Contractors Web Site it shows I had a "Schedule Adherence" rate of 116% for Jan 1 and 104% on Jan 7 & 8 but when I called to see why I did not get my bonus they said they showed a Schedule Adherence rate of 74% for Jan 1. I have called and written several times to no avail so I guess I have been had. No one seems to have any explaination as to the discrepancy.