Why are men supposed to be sooo strong, yet when they are hurt or sick they become like little kids? I don't want to sound totally insensitive, but Jason broke his leg on thursday. This was after two weeks of dealing with him complaining about feeling sick, yet he would not go to the doctor. After listening to two weeks of non-stop "I feel horrible" I made him get antibiotics. Now he broke his leg-and I feel bad for him, I'm sure it's painful. But after two years of listening to how he was raised by a Marine father, he is so tough, handles pain well-I have to totally disagree. He is complaining non-stop. Hands hurt from the crutches, leg hurts, he moans and groans constantly. Last year I had a torn calf muscle and a torn Achilles tendon. Painful, yes! But I did not complain like I was dying. This is wearing on me.

Just a question-Do your husbands/significant others act like the world is coming to an end when they are hurt or sick?

I'm not man-bashing, no offense to those men who are part of our forum, but, this is driving me crazy. I feel like I want to say "suck it up", "get over it" etc.

Am I being insensitive? I'm trying to be a help, trying to be sympathetic. But, he is driving me crazy!!

Jill

This question is appropriate for me at the moment. DH went back to work this morning after a week off because he had cataract surgery last Monday.
He.
Was
DRIVING
me
NUTS!

I have been married to him for 21 years and this was the first time he was not allowed to drive for a week. I was ready to rip the damn steering wheel off my side of the car and tell him, "Here, then you drive!"

Other than that, when he is sick, he stays in bed. Upstairs. And wants to be left alone for the most part.

Since he has been diagnosed as diabetic he is much better about getting to the doctor.

Linda

My DH is whiny when he's sick, too. And I usually have to push him to go to the dr. When he gets to be too much, I do the same thing as some of the others... I leave. Thankfully I can use "I need to go study, I'm going to Starbucks" excuse.

I'd have to say yes and no. My DH anytime he doesn't feel good he gets extra grumpy. He stops talking much and everyone avoids him. Because of some health issues he has colds take him down and put him in bed faster. I have noticed if he doesn't becareful he ends up much more sick. He does sometimes whine alot more.

michelle

My dad and brother, not at all. They are stoic to the point of not taking care of themselves. My brother broke his wrist snowboarding. Carried his boots and board and stuff to the car. Drove home. Put some ice on it. He wife came home and said, "OMG... you have to go to the dr!"

My dh... He is more whiney. He isn't very athletic... and is sort of out of shape... and I think that perhaps it really does hurt more.

My dh will avoid going to the doctor as well and push himself to go to work and then when he hits the wall....watch out.

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...yet when they are hurt or sick they become like little kids?...

Not me.

Mom makes fun of the fact that, when I am obviously sick or hurting, and she asks how I am doing, I always say "Fine".

Mine's that way too. Thankfully he recognizes that and is the first to say that if the men in the world would be responsible for having babies we'd be in a serious population decline crisis as no family would have more than 1 child ; )

In a word, Yes. (to the does my SO always whine while sick.) What gripes me most is that whatever he is suffering through is always "way worse" than whatever I have suffered through even if we have had the same cold. Whatever...

I just try to keep in mind that he is entitled to his feelings whether they are right or wrong. He can believe what he likes, but I don't have to believe the same thing. I don't like it when he tells me to suck it up, so I try not to tell him the same. If it is driving me too bonkers, I just make sure he has what he needs and I find some excuse to leave the house. (: