Change is good. Say it 20 times and maybe you'll believe it!

We all know that change is inevitable and often fantastic, but what I'm learning lately is that even wonderful changes require life and mind adjustments. If we don't make the adjustments, the changes can catch us off-guard and that's no fun. It's like running with a person who has a faster stride. Feels great at the time, but it sure hurts later. So how can we keep pace with our changes?

The changes I've been making since my "live your best life" revolution began in February are adding up to many good things in my life, and I recently started a job that I love, which is shocking as well. But last night I had a meltdown and found myself head-in-hands crying over my kitchen cutting board because I was too exhausted to even think of a good meal option. Thankfully, my hubby sent me to the tub and required me to chill. Why the meltdown? All these lifestyle changes are adding up, and I haven't been giving myself Acceptance Time.

Acceptance Time is something a lot of us do automatically: we recalibrate our needs and the needs of our families when a shift occurs. Someone wakes up with the flu, and your day suddenly alters - within seconds you must call in sick, call the child in sick, get gingerale and chickynoodle soup, call the pediatrician, etc. Sound familiar?

While I pruned up in my bubble bath last night, this is what I came up with. When life is shifting, even for the better, something's gotta give (which also happens to be the title of my favorite movie, by the way). I decided that for me to have less stress at the end of my day, I need to make up some KD style "kit meals" and think dinners a day ahead, especially if I'm about to have a 9 hour work day. I also need to either excersize first thing in the morning or take the day off because trying to cram a workout in after work in addition to making the family dinner and having quality time with them is too much to ask of myself right now.

I have to trust myself every day that I really am doing my best. As Don Miguel Ruiz says in his incredible book, The Four Agreements, "Your best is never ging to be the same from one moment to the next. Everythng is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality and other times it will not be as good." In other words, my best yesterday was different than my best today - on my day off - because I will have time to do other things, and because I have had more rest. Our best, as women, varies with the cyle of the earth as well - and we adjust. We have to!

So my questions for you today are:

1. What are the changes your life is passing through and what are you doing to accept them and adjust?

2. What did your best look like yesterday? What about today - any different?

Thanks for sharing, I really think you guys are awesome!

1. What are the changes your life is passing through and what are you doing to accept them and adjust? Being a mother for 22 years, and having that be the ONLY job I ever wanted in my life has been wonderful. I know once a mother, always a mother. But there are changes in that life that you don't consider when your kids are in the midst of being younger. Then one AM you wake up and they are young adults or even adults. This has hit me very hard. Now what do I do? Where is my life focused? What is left for me. For a long time, I thought NOTHNG, I am
done give it up. But slowly, ever so slowly, I am seeing that my life is opening up now, and there are many routes to take. I've taken some of those paths now, and no not to do it again, and I've taken a couple that have proved to be highly good for me. But it's now an investigation and enjoyment of what's good for me.

2. What did your best look like yesterday? What about today - any different? It looked happy, filled with excitement. Today, it's filled with gloom and doom. That's what happens with people with severe chronic depression, you never know when it's going to it, and then you are supposed to roll with the punches as best you can. How am I going to deal with it today? Well, the healthiest way possible, prayer and lots of that....and then have a cup of cappacinio with my best friend and my journal.

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Originally posted by mountaingirl:


1. What are the changes your life is passing through and what are you doing to accept them and adjust?

2. What did your best look like yesterday? What about today - any different?

Changes I am going through..I'm buying a house. Once its final, I am going to get some paint chips and tiles and start decorating. I'm adjusting to the idea that I am doing this as a single woman, there was always a part of me that thought I'd do it when I got married.

My best yesterday was pretty good until evening, my best today is a little more apprehensive. I have waves of utter panic, of "what am I doing?? AAAAUUUUUGGGGHHHH"

Catherine