the thing that stood out for in reading your post--
wow, jill has amazing radar.this is not stuff you will find on a resume. you are an incredible asset to your employer.
Goals: 1. Stop thinking like a chronic dieter and start living to inspire. 2. HALT (hungry, anxious, lonely, tired) I will stop and tune in with myself should I experience these things, and respond with something healthy. 3. One word 2008: courage 4. Eat slow and mindfully.
Jill - Don't allow this dishonest client to errode your convictions. You are right. You went about it properly. You documented it all. Don't feel guilty either as this person made their own bed....
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
be easy on yourself jill. you did all the right things, and it sounds like your instincts are right on, girl. you smelled a rat and by God, it was a rat. take a breathe, find that calm inside of yourself. you are good. you are astute. your company should be grateful that they have such an amazing employee.
Goals: 1. Stop thinking like a chronic dieter and start living to inspire. 2. HALT (hungry, anxious, lonely, tired) I will stop and tune in with myself should I experience these things, and respond with something healthy. 3. One word 2008: courage 4. Eat slow and mindfully.
I had a client who flat out lied to me, for almost one year. I found out yesterday that my suspicions were true, and that this person owed us money. So, I contacted my boss, and now, the client is talking in circles and has left multiple messages for me. My co-worker made the comment "Thou doest protest too much"-meaning-this person is overly defending themselves. Kind of like a kid who gets in trouble for, let's say, breaking a lamp in the house, and initially denies it, but then finds a million reasons to defend why it happened but they were not directly involved.
What I am most pissed about is this-I made written notes about everything that happened, since last year and because this person is arguing SO much, I am second-guessing myself!! I have had my boss, my best friend, my dd, and my boyfriend say "you did nothing wrong"!! So why then do I look at myself as being at fault? I think that I screwed up somewhere. Even though I know, I KNOW I documented everything!! This self-doubt drives me crazy. It is the reason so I allow so many people to walk all over me! I figure, if they can put up a good enough argument, then I must be wrong-which is twisted and not right. Just needed to post and if anyone wants to reply-please, please, tell me I am not crazy. I am very diligent with my notes and documenting ALL conversations, specifically for this reason-and yet, I always second-guess myself.
JIll
Summer Challenge Goals: 1) Walk 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week 2) Plan weekly menus
i guess i am not supposed to understand why the simple act of asking your child to not eat in her room (hello! roaches, maggots, ants--the list goes on!), to not open the bedroom window (for safety reasons and also, we are renting and the window is already screwed up), to finish folding her laundry... would result in such an exaggerated response of --oh gee, now i am gonig to hold a grudge against you for the rest of my life and i am not speaking to you, etc etc
i know i am just supposed to spew out kindness and love and be steady and be calm but honestly, it is taxing. and i am sure you are all tired of hearing me say these things because God knows I am tired of saying them. how do you NOT take it personal? i am pretty darn good at not taking things personal from other folks--it has taken all of my 40 years but i am really getting that down. but with dd...oy vey. i put so much into parenting. it dominates my thoughts about how best to approach things, what is best for her,etc and honestly, it is a real thankless job. i mean, how dare i ask her to pay for her retainer (the second one now) which she loses constantly, and each time, i fork out more money which i don't have. so i said this time, you pay for half. i was not the one who left it on a dirty napkin at the sub shop just so her friend could throw it in the garbage can. and for this, i get this ridiculous lifetime grudge. WHAT? ok, sorry to vomit all over the Thread. i am getting it out so i can go back to being the rock solid statue of motherly love and strength that i am supposed to be without going over the edge.
Goals: 1. Stop thinking like a chronic dieter and start living to inspire. 2. HALT (hungry, anxious, lonely, tired) I will stop and tune in with myself should I experience these things, and respond with something healthy. 3. One word 2008: courage 4. Eat slow and mindfully.
Well, I finally just re-posted the one from January and it was approved.
My membership has expired and I am not going to renew it right away although it shows that I have two new e-mails .
I am pretty sure I know who one of them is from. I started talking to him just before my membership expired. His profile shows that he has sent 4 e-mails but I only have 3 from him in my mailbox. I had warned him that I was leaving match & gave him my yahoo address so if he is interested enough he can get in touch with me.
"Live your life so that you are not afraid to sell the family parrot to the town gossip."
Posts: 4004 | Location: NE Atlanta (Chamblee, Doraville, Norcross, Duluth) | Registered: March 15, 2004
That sounds like some of the "fun" I have had in the past with eBay. I just love not being able to talk to people and getting those darn form e-mails. NOT!
Hi Judy- Sorry you can't get your profile worked out. I have heard from others the same troubles with online sites like Match and eHarmony. It seems kind of ridiculous that THEY are deciding that what you like to do for fun is "not approved". How do they get to determine that your fun is not what they want? It's not like you posted something offensive or unusual!! I would want to know why they rejected that, not just a general rejection.
Jill
Summer Challenge Goals: 1) Walk 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week 2) Plan weekly menus
I am soooo mad at Match. As some of you know I have been on it almost a year now.
Yesterday on Feb. 18 I changed the profile I have been using since Jan. I put in one sentence I had seen used in several other profiles but they did not approve mine. I took out that one line and my profile was approved later that same evening. Today I added on one sentence under “For Fun” (which is not a part of the main profile) which said “Trivia night at Vintage Pizzeria in Chamblee” because that is what I do ‘for fun”. This afternoon I was notified that it was not approved so I removed that one line that I had added and re-submitted my profile without it. Now they say that one is not approved either and it is the EXACT same one they approved yesterday. They NEVER tell you what it is that they disapprove of. You just get a form letter that says: i]“Unfortunately, we are unable to approve it at this time. Please submit another profile or alter the text you previously sent by following these steps:
profile Guidelines: * All information provided must be accurate and current * Must be in English * You must be single or separated from your spouse * Do not include detailed personal information (ie: your last name, street address, contact information, date of birth, etc.) to help protect your online anonymity * Do not include any language which could be considered defamatory or offensive in any way (ie: sexually explicit, promotes racism, references to inflicting bodily harm to yourself or others, etc.) * No solicitation * No website addresses * You must be at least 18 years old [/i]
A year ago I would have (& did) recommend it as a way to meet people but not anymore.
"Live your life so that you are not afraid to sell the family parrot to the town gossip."
Posts: 4004 | Location: NE Atlanta (Chamblee, Doraville, Norcross, Duluth) | Registered: March 15, 2004
I borrowed Deceptively Delicious from the library. I'd borrow it again. I really need to get rid of cookbooks rather than buying new ones. I do appreciate the comment.
And, Sheri, strangely, I was just going to buy one green pepper - which I love - but as I walked in the store, I noticed "stoplight peppers" in a plastic bag. They were $4.99 for one red, one yellow and one green. I passed them and went over to the green peppers to see they were priced 2/$3. I went back and got the multi-colored ones.
I also purchased a cauliflower for 79¢ (a few bad spots). I'm certainly glad I didn't try to make the cauliflower mashed potatoes!
Linda, Have you considered buying one of those new cookbooks like the Deceptively Delicious book? Those are the ones that show you clever ways to hide veggies for picky "kids." Basically from what I can tell, you make purees of certain veggies and add them to kid friendly recipes like mac and cheese and such. I have thought about buying one out of curiosity, but everyone in my household actually likes veggies. I do have a few friends who have tried the books and enjoyed them.
Originally posted by johnbol: I continue to try to hide the veggies, but it won't include green peppers next time - and it wasn't even a whole one!
Green pepper is a veggie you shouldn't have even tried to hide. It not only has a distinct flavor, but it overpowers the flavor of other things. I am not a fan.
Red, yellow and orange bell peppers, on the other hand, are among my favorite veggies. You could hide those easily, except that they can tend to sweeten whatever you are cooking.
I don't tend to like a super chunky tomato sauce or chili, so I often use the hand-blender on the tomatoes. One time, I forgot to do that before I put the chopped red peppers in so I went ahead and whirred them too. The only way I knew they were in there is that the sauce was a little sweeter than it would be otherwise due to the sweetness of the red peppers.
Then again, red, orange and yellow bell peppers tend to be OUTRAGEOUSLY expensive, so that may not be an option.
Personal Healthy Habits Challenge - 10/1 to 12/31/08: 1. Exercise: Get back to consistently working out 3-5 X week. 2. Food: Get back to consistently preparing healthy lunches for the week with increased veg servings. 3. Behavior: Reduce intake of sweets.
Posts: 7260 | Location: Rehoboth Beach, DE | Registered: March 12, 2004
I do that with bolognaise sauce. Normally I'd put chopped onion, garlic and chopped carrots, but sometimes I've added mushrooms, leek, leftover root vegetables or even zucchini. If I process them finely enough and cover with tomato paste, the kids don't notice anything. I had no idea peppers were so noticeable (but we like them so that's probably why). I would notice eggplant but that's because I loathe it.
Anyway, keep on trying. Maybe you'll have better luck with sauces?
****************** “The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then, your body and your fat are really good friends.”
I made a meat loaf for supper tonight and decided to try something different - especially since dh is trying to eat healthier and is taking salads with his sandwiches for lunch.
I food processed (almost pureéd) baby carrots, a celery stalk, 1/2 yellow onion and 1/2 a green pepper and mixed it into the ground meat with a 12 oz can of tomato paste.
Now, recall that neither dh or ds are veggie lovers or eaters.
DH used his fork to aid the meat loaf to his plate (it didn't mold together). He licked his fork and said, "Peppers! You put peppers in here!" From then on he was put out about it.
I thought it had too much tomato paste.
I continue to try to hide the veggies, but it won't include green peppers next time - and it wasn't even a whole one!
Originally posted by Brie: This doesn't so bad to me! It sounds like you got through the day pretty darn well.
What's your plan for tomorrow?
I have fresh fruit, dark rye bread and lots of greens I can add to the topping (turkey or lf cheese), so breakfast is good provided I take the time to make and pack it. Lunch is also good; I checked this week's menu at the cafeteria and if I have a large salad side I'll feel better about the main course. Dinner is still open, but I plan to cook something real from scratch and NOT open the fridge, sigh and call the Chinese place across the street.
All in all, I'm feeling a lot better than I did this morning. Focusing on the positives: I did so swim today. I ate well. I feel physically better. Tomorrow is a new day. Winter break is only a week away. (etc)
Thanks to everyone for your support.
****************** “The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then, your body and your fat are really good friends.”
Did a veggie thing and big salad side, then made the wrong choice for dinner (sandwich and coffee, ouch), went water jogging and am now debating what to have for a late night snack (9:30 pm). No hot food but maybe tea and a healthier sandwich than the ones I've been having the past weeks.
This doesn't so bad to me! It sounds like you got through the day pretty darn well.
What's your plan for tomorrow?
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
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