I'm not actually fat, as such, but size 10 is still feeling big and bulky to me. Some mediums are a little big on me, some mediums are tiny (can you tell I bought some stuff online that didn't fit? Le Sigh) I'm still slowly losing, everything fits that little bit better, but I wanna look cute, damnit.
I just feel fat. I can't find any cute, cool summer clothes and am bummed out by that.
Again, I am sorry if I offended anyone by my previous post. I try to be sympathetic, and sometimes it gets lost in my feeling FAT.
You know I think it is great actually that we can all just 'get it out there' how we are feeling. kwim? It helps to think thru it. My sister is 10 years younger than me and training for a triathalon (and I don't even know how to spell it!) She will still note her flaws and she is a model of physical perfection. but on other hand we should all have our personal goals....getting from A to B.... for our own selves... is what it is all about. whether that is training for a triathalon, loosing that 'last' 5 lbs or the first 5 lbs....
I went shopping today, simply because it also gives me time to think...or not to think. I ran through the misses sections and looked at the smaller clothes, took some back to the women's section and compared. They are cuter, they are brighter, they are where I want to be. They have waists and bustlines, and style. They aren't just straight up and down, and too long...they are nice. As I walked back to the misses section, I over heard two "Paris Hilton" type teens remark, how FAT they were, and this post and my comparisons flashed into my head. Over and over we are what the media tells us, we buy into that idea. If these girls were a 2 they were big.... my mother when I bought the dress to bury her in was a 4, she had always been a 10/12. FAT is what you see yourself as FAT, unless of course you are anorexic and that's another post.
Again, I am sorry if I offended anyone by my previous post. I try to be sympathetic, and sometimes it gets lost in my feeling FAT.
It's never too late to get it right.
Posts: 3458 | Location: Central USA | Registered: March 11, 2004
i am with brie. i have struggles with self image. i read this wonderful wuote "every moment critisizing yourself is a wasted moment" God knows i try my best to live that quote. but some days...i feel terrible. i don't like what i see in the mirror. and then someone will say to me "you know...so many people would feel great if they looked fit like you." and i don't believe it. and other days, i feel great. it is a struggle. i hope one day it won't be a struggle. i hope.
Goals: 1. Stop thinking like a chronic dieter and start living to inspire. 2. HALT (hungry, anxious, lonely, tired) I will stop and tune in with myself should I experience these things, and respond with something healthy. 3. One word 2008: courage 4. Eat slow and mindfully.
I used to be a size 24. At five foot tall, that is a difficult thing. I know its easier to buy clothes at size 10/12, but now I have more of an "expectation of cuteness" in clothes, if that makes sense. And unfortunately, even at this size, manufacturers are designing for proportional weight and height.
Originally posted by Brie: I'm working on it but changing my self image has been tough and certainly did not go hand in hand with my weight loss/maintenance.
(I hope that this kind of makes at least some sense. I feel like I'm tripping over my words here).
It makes sense to me. I think that for me, the problem has tended to be an all or nothing view of myself. If I'm a few pounds overweight, it sometimes seems just as bad as when I was 20, 40, 60... We're all also so overloaded with media images of truly tiny women that it's hard for any of us to feel "normal" in comparison.
----------- Jen
Posts: 2868 | Location: Ohio | Registered: March 11, 2004
My self image actually has very little to do with my weight. Some of the times I felt the absolute worst about myself and my appearance was when I was very thin and conversely, some of the times I felt most comfortable and wonderful was when I was a size 18/20.
I know I've personally struggled with accepting myself and my body type through my entire life. I have lots of perceived flaws that I have obsessed about both when heavy and thin. Losing weight didn't miraculously get rid of those insecurities and deep rooted feelings.
For me, what I see in the mirror doesn't generally reflect what other people see. I've had the mis-match both ways - when I was really heavy, I didn't feel that I looked it and now that I'm thinner, I feel heavier than I am. I think my self image has me situated 4 sizes bigger than I am now. When I was heavy, that's what I saw in the mirror even though I was 4 or more sizes bigger than that and now I see it too even though I'm smaller.
I'm working on it but changing my self image has been tough and certainly did not go hand in hand with my weight loss/maintenance.
(I hope that this kind of makes at least some sense. I feel like I'm tripping over my words here).
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
I'm sorry if I offend anyone, and yes I do realize that FAT is relative to how you feel, but please an 8, 10 and 12 is not the biggest that clothes go. Try thinking about being a 22, 24, or larger. I have great sympathy for you all, honest I do. But I got one of those "Paris Hilton, oh brother" smiles on my face when I read your posts, because there are bigger sizes and it's very painful to think that an 8 might be a "big" size.
I agree with Jen, put on something cheery today, that makes you feel good. Try to find some joy in being an 8, and being able to wear a medium top, or even a small top. WOW, what some women wouldn't give to be able to even think about that size.
We all deal with our FAT days and wonder if we will ever be thin again. Somedays, I in my size 22's look at women I know who can't buy off the rack anywhere, and thank God for my 22 size, yet I feel fat. Don't allow the size of the clothes to tell you how you feel, try shopping without looking at the size, and see what you find. It's an interesting experience.
It's never too late to get it right.
Posts: 3458 | Location: Central USA | Registered: March 11, 2004
Ditto what everyone else said. Shopping almost always makes me feel fat, and it usually requires me pulling out favorite pieces of clothing to feel better.
I quit shopping for clothes & shoes online. It never works out well.
Life is like a roller coaster, with lots of ups and downs, but the curves, spirals, loops and corkscrews are what make life interesting.
I somehow over the winter went from size 8 to 10...ARG! and I am slowing working my way back down. BUT...i do have a cool size 10 skort that makes me look great so DO go shopping and find something that you look good in and feel good in!!! When i wear my size 8 shorts I feel FAT! I have to say that when I wear something that makes me feel fat I eat worse. I know a lot of people say to wear something tight so you won't eat...but the opposite works for me. if I feel 'skinny' (or skinnier...) i do better on the eating. I do a lot of online shopping too and it is so hit-or-miss. Stacy and Clinton say you have to spend hours in the store to find the right outfit. LOL! amy
I have days that I feel that way too. I agree with Jen to put on something bright that you feel confident in. If you don't have anything that makes you feel that way, it's time to go shopping : )!
Out of our beliefs are born deeds; out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.
so DO go shopping and find something that you look good in and feel good in!!! When i wear my size 8 shorts I feel FAT! I have to say that when I wear something that makes me feel fat I eat worse. I know a lot of people say to wear something tight so you won't eat...but the opposite works for me. if I feel 'skinny' (or skinnier...) i do better on the eating. I do a lot of online shopping too and it is so hit-or-miss. Stacy and Clinton say you have to spend hours in the store to find the right outfit. LOL!
