I stess ate my way through yesterday - lots of salty things and I'm up two pounds this morning.

I HATE going into the weekend up, even in water weight.

I'm sick of not being in range. I'm sick of stress eating and feeling out of control. I'm sick of feeling like life is a series of nutritional road bumps.

I NEED TO GET BACK ON PLAN AND STAY ON PLAN RIGHT NOW. Not Monday, NOW!

So, here goes.

(I'm not even addressing the exercise piece because that's fine - food is the issue).

1. No unplanned snacking! This is killing me right now. If I stuck to my food plan, I would be fine. I know I can do it. I did it for years. I need to do it again and just not on occasion but every day.

2. Get out of the kitchen when feeling stressed. Move the lap top off the desk (in the kitchen) to another area of the house. I'm less likly to snack if I'm away from the food.

3. No more wine at home with dinner until I'm back in range. I really don't need to be drinking extra calories right now.

4. Don't let restaurant meals turn into big splurges. I've had more meals out these past four weeks and have only done well at a couple. I need to get back on track with that and just have one splurge per month (and that will be the 24th of March).

Short term plan:
Tonight I'm going out for sushi with a friend. I will limit myself to either one glass of wine or none (I don't want to set myself up for total failure). I am going to skip dessert. Sushi places usually aren't known for great dessert anyway. I will have tea and enjoy the company of my friend.

Plan for Sunday - We're going out to an unfamiliar restaurant after dd's recital. I plan on having some kind of seafood, sauces on the sides, and a salad. No appetizer and only a bite of dd's dessert.

Thursday, dd and I leave for Florida for a long weekend. We're thrilled to be going down to see my mil but I'm travelling alone with dd (who doesn't fly well thanks to air sickness) and there will be some stress I'm sure with being face to face with my mil's illness.

I plan on getting up in the mornings and skipping the gym and going for long walks on the beach. I think I need to de-stress as much as possible and I want to take some advantage of being in FL.

Only one glass of wine with dinner. This is a biggie as usually wine gets openned at 4 in the afternoon there. I'm hoping that I'll be doing the cooking which will be "safer" for me.
Desserts are usually an issue too and are out for lunch and dinner. I will have something small at dinner and that's it.

I need to continue to keep in mind that eating well is about my health. My family needs me to be healthy, especially now. I owe it to them to get back on track and do it now.

Thanks for listening, it's been a very stressful week (we got more bad family news (health related) about yet another family member) and I can't afford for my eating to continue being in the ditch.

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That sounds fun, would you share the web site?

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http://eurodancehits.com/ : )

Hope you get good news...

Sending best wishes to you and your family.

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I also found a cool website where I can watch free videos of my favorite high energy dance songs. DD loves dancing so we can do that together to pass the time (and get in some extra exercise too).

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That sounds fun, would you share the web site?

I hope you have a really good day.

Tomorrow is shaping up to be a stressful day. DH is going on a business trip and will be gone until we meet up in FL later in the week. We'll be awaiting medical news from family on two fronts at some point tomorrow.
I will need to be home all afternoon and don't have much on my agenda and I don't want to turn to food.

I'll probably try to do some extra cleaning and laundry just to keep busy. I also found a cool website where I can watch free videos of my favorite high energy dance songs. DD loves dancing so we can do that together to pass the time (and get in some extra exercise too).

The good news is that I won't have to wait on dh for meals so I can eat on my schedule which will work better.

I'll probably check in a fair amount to stay accountable.

(((HUGS))) Bee!!! So glad that you are feeling better now!!!

Sounds like you're bouncing right back! Good news all around! Love it when my skinny jeans look good. Adding hopes for a smooth as glass flight to my well wishes.

Peg

Bee, The week after next, we will be in Fort Myers. My folks live in Fort Myers. We used to live in Naples off of Immokalee Road. Anyway, we have spring break starting on the 19th, so we are heading down (2hours away). We are going to visit, he is going to hang out with his brothers and dad and I will hang with mom and my aunts and then we will all catch the Yankee vs Twins game on the 24th. Go Yankees!!!

Thanks for all the support. You guys are the best!

I'm actually feeling much better (and in control) since posting.

I had an amazing workout at the gym which always helps with my stress levels. I need to remember to just go up to my home gym instead of turning to food.

As for my weight, I already adjusted my range over the summer when I dropped body fat and added muscle and frankly, that's the right range for me. I'm carrying some extra around the middle right now that I'm not happy with.

I did put on my skinny jeans though after my shower and they still look great (if I do say so myself). I'm wearing them out tonight to my dinner with a nice top and my heeled boots and I'm feeling pretty good about myself right now.

One of the things that has been adding to my stress (which in the greater scheme of things is really trivial) is that my hair is falling out in large clumps from my toxic shock. It's still not noticeable to anyone but me but it will be pretty soon.

Anyway, it feels good to feel nice in my clothes today because it's helping my self esteem some.

MJ - we're going to Naples, FL

We do medicate dd with Benadryl (at her pediatrician's recommendation) and it usually works pretty well unless there is lots of turbulence (which unfortunately has happened to us).

PS It helps me so much to be able to vent here and write out my plan. I'm sure as you all know, I'm very type A and having a solid plan really helps me. Just having one or two things just wouldn't be enough structure for me.

Sending hugs your way.

Two things helped really helped with my stress eating.

1) I've NEVER EVER solved any problem by stress eating. I never helped a friend or family member by eating. I never helped to heal a sick relative by eating.

And I've actually made my own stress and depression MUCH worse by stress eating.

2) Rather than focusing on what I COULDN'T eat, it really helped when I started following the DASH plan and focused on ADDING more servings of fruits and vegs. I was never hungry and that helped a lot.

Sending hugs your way Brie.

{{{Bee}}} I'm sorry to hear you are struggling and that you've had more bad health news in the family. Why do these things always seem to come in groups? I hate that.

I have some questions/thoughts for you. You didn't really ask for them so move on to the next post if you aren't up to hearing them. I totally understand but want to offer them if you might want to think about them. I know I almost always am looking for this from you guys in a moment like this but I usually don't post when I don't want to hear it (not anything about you guys...that's my bad denial behavior) and I don't want to discourage you from posting to vent and plan because I know that is a great tool for you.

Your plan looks great but fairly complicated with lots of rules and a fair number of things you don't have a whole heck of a lot of control over going on around you. Do you want to maybe look at simplifing this down to a 5 point plan or something that you could say to yourself in a sentence or 2?

I would echo some of the questions Sandy is asking. I know when we've talked about goal weight/range you've been very resistant to adjusting it but I just want to encourage you to look at it again. I wonder if you looked over your records for the past 6 mos to a year if you are indeed maintaining a weight very effectively but just not the one you are looking for. We tell each other all the time not to focus on the scale when we are trying to lose the weight and I don't think it is any better in maintenence. How are things going on some of your other NSV's? Measurements, general well being, etc.? Is the number really the only missing piece?

I was just thinking last night when I read your post in What's for Dinner that you were being awfully hard on yourself. You have very high standards for yourself so please be careful to be kind to yourself in these difficult days. Treat yourself as you would treat a client. I'm fairly certain you wouldn't be quite so hard on one of them. Goodness knows none of us would be so hard on you. You are doing a terrific job day in and day out, year after year to take good care of yourself. You ARE healthy and you're going to be healthy for a long, long time because you KNOW how to do this. Doesn't mean that you have to do this perfectly every day and doesn't mean that life is going to make it darn near impossible to do anywhere near close to perfectly for periods of time.

You are in my thoughts today. I hope that DD's recital day is a very special family time and that your trip to FL offers some well-deserved, much needed down time for you. Ok, one more hug! {{{Bee}}}}

Peg

Bee, as always, I admire your dedication and determination. Remember that we are all human and slip up occasionally. You are already ahead of the game because you recognize it and make a quick attempt to correct it.

Have a safe trip. Try benedryl. It will make her sleepyish and maybe take the edge off.

Where are you going in Fla???

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Thursday, dd and I leave for Florida for a long weekend. We're thrilled to be going down to see my mil but I'm travelling alone with dd (who doesn't fly well thanks to air sickness)[...]

I am sorry your having such a stressfull time. Have you tried ginger for air sickness? My personal experience has been that it is very effective at controlling tummy problems (can't spell the "n" word ) due to car sickness, illness and pregnancy so it probably works for air sickness also. I have never used them but I know you can get powdered ginger in capsules. I scrape the skin off the ginger root with a spoon and then simmer chunks of it in water for about 15-30 minutes and then use that water to make tea or use it to add to Campbells Chicken Noodle Soup for dd when she is sick. Dd also likes to chew on a piece of candied ginger. I will find out the name of it from her today.

Bee,
Sending you hugs!!! I hope you have a good time in FL with your dd, I'm sure it will be difficult knowing your mil is ill but she will no doubt be very happpy to have you there.
Jill

Bee,
Are you off plan because of the stress? It sort of sounds like that. But I wondered if you are getting enough calories so that you don't feel such an urge to snack. I don't know, but thought it might be worth a look.

Is your goal weight working for you now? Is it too hard to maintain- stressing you too much? Again, I don't know- I think these are very personal issues, but thought that in light of your frustration I would bring it up.

Sending lots of hugs and support. Seems like life is throwing you lots of stress. Take good care.