We're going to a wedding in two weeks. It's at 2pm at a pretty fancy resort. Weather should be in the 60's. Ceremony outside with the bride in long, white dress. Dinner and dancing will be inside.

I want to wear a very cute black dress with oyster colored accents. The dress is mostly black. It's pretty conservative- kinda of like this one only the colors are opposite the picture so that my dress is mostly black.

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Can I wear it? Is it too dark? Too depressing for a wedding? You can be honest. I still have time to shop.

BTW, my dress was about $3200 LESS than the Chanel dress here!

The wedding is today. It's a beautiful day!
I did not get new shoes- just never got around to it. But, I did find a great reddish, purplish colored clutch that will brighten things up. Plus, I got new lipstick is a beautiful red with a slight pinkish tone.

Thanks again for all the kind support.

Thanks so much for the input. I have some black pumps, but might look around for some red/maroon ones.

I also have great jewelry to wear. I might go with my 100 inch string of pearls- some large gold bracelets and showier earings- I have some large diamond studs that are pretty stunning.

I was did not want to look funeralish. Frankly, since my sister's death, I feel "funeralish" but don't want to bring that to the wedding.

I was shocked to be just about the only person NOT wearing black at the last wedding I went to. I hadn't been to a wedding in a long time and had no clue that people were now wearing black to weddings. I stuck out like a sore thumb in a bright color among all the black in the church!

I think you should wear it, with a kick of color from shoes and accessories. Gold shoes and a gold purse, or red, or platinum/silver. A Chanel-type necklace with a little color (like red or silver instead of the black) would look great and really highlight the COLOR, not the black.

I agree about black being worn to more and more weddings. As long as an effort is made to make it NOT funeral-like, I think it looks okay. But the black dress, black shoes, black purse, black hose, minimal accessory thing looks a lot like mourning-wear. (The last wedding we went to, I saw that. It was a little creepy, to be honest. It didn't help that the woman wearing that stuff also chose to wear no makeup, never smiled, cried a lot, and in general, ACTED like she was at a funeral.)

I helped my brother's fiancee light up a black dress she picked out to wear to a wedding--we found an adorable red cropped jacket (which wouldn't work with your dress, hers was a much different cut) and yellow sparkly sandals, and a bright yellow clutch with big red flowers. Even just wearing the shoes and carrying the purse, she looked dressed up and NOT ready for a funeral.

Sandy,

Since it does sound like a formal wedding (although the time doesn't lend to that feeling, but the venue, and bride's apparel does) the black dress would be very appropriate. Most of our friends were married in the late 80s and early 90s, but now a lot of our friends' kids are getting married so now I have a whole new generation of weddings to go to, and I see a LOT more black being worn by the guests.

A couple of years ago Dena went to a formal "black & white" wedding. She was just a guest and wore a black formal with silver accessories.

I don't know about now but years ago I read that in Japan the bride wears black. A bride wearing white was extremely bad luck (not to mention poor taste). White was for funerals.

Thanks for that input, Brie. I've not been to a wedding for some time! I'm happy to wear the dress.

The last wedding I went to was last August and was very formal. Almost everyone woman was wearing black. I think that the days of not wearing black to a wedding are long gone.

The dress looks awesome so my vote is to wear it.

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