(Mostly, this is cut and pasted from another post… with some additions.)
October is an easy month for me to maintain or lose… not too much going on.
Only thing different in October is there is more candy in more places. Like there is candy in the office at school, as well as the teachers’ lounge. However, MANY of my co-workers are overweight… and watching people standing around eating miniature sized candy bars saying, “I shouldn’t be eating this…” makes me not want to join them. The same strategy I use ALL YEAR LONG… “If I didn’t bring it. It isn’t mine. And I’m not going to eat it” works all thru the month of October.
In November, I sit down with a calendar and figure out the rest of the year. How many days we are out of town, the community band potluck, going to the city with friends, family in town, days at my mil’s, actual holidays, my birthday, etc. etc. Since, I have a fairly predictable life… I can usually say with a fair degree of certainty that between Nov. 9th and January 5th, I will have about 19 days or meals were there is the opportunity to overeat… HOWEVER… just because I’m out of town and eating in a restaurant, it does not mean that I MUST have dessert or that I MUST eat burgers and fries, or “splurge”. Not all of these 19 days/meals are SPECIAL. Nothing special about the Saturday after Thanksgiving. No reason why I can’t make a plan and stick to it. The Saturday after Thanksgiving is just another day. Thanksgiving is NOT a 5 day eating fest. It is one day.
AND since I eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day… between November 9 - January 5... I will eat approximately 290 times. If I slightly overeat 19 times… I also have 271 opportunities to eat clean. I often eat in losing mode many those 271 times… and this makes up for an extra slice of pie on Thanksgiving or an egg roll at a pot luck.
On actual holidays… Like Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Years… My goal has been to eat to the point where I am NOT stuffed. My goal is to stop eating before I have to undo my pants. I’ve been a (secret) pants undo-er in the past… and it actually kind of grosses me out now to see people undoing their pants and saying, “I’m sooooo stuffed… past the dressing and gravy back this way”.
I’ve been to WW meetings and the “dieting strategies” of lowering the points on everything and making everything lowfat and only eating 3 bites of dessert and bringing a pumpkin pie made with Spenda don’t do anything for me. My grandparents were a healthy weight all of their lives… and ate 2-3 slices of pie on Thanksgiving and had seconds on turkey and stuffing. My grandmother never heard of s/f ff “Pumpkin Fluff”.
But they didn’t eat like it was Thanksgiving every single day of the year. They didn’t have dessert after lunch and dinner and donuts for breakfast EVERY single day. I don’t remember them having seconds at dinner… except at holiday meals.
My goal is to eat like my grandparents. Eat on Christmas, and Thanksgiving like a “normal” person… and eat during the rest of the 6-8 week “Holiday Season” like a “normal” person - albeit a “normal” person in 1957 or 1967... Not the average, “normal” person in 2007.
There is a concept in weight control called
Flexible Restraint… and I try and practice that during the holidays (and all year, really). BUT to practice it… you (and I mean me… or anyone) have to have a good handle on BLT’s and emotional eating. To practice Flexible Restraint… and bank some calories and save up a few days for a special occasion… you have to have BLT’s and stress eating under control. If a person squanders their banked up calories eating cookies in the car after a fight with their husband, it makes if pretty hard to save up some calories for the Band Potluck. Or if you nibble away, while cleaning up the kitchen after dinner… or leftover pizza crusts… ditto. Hard to bank calories for an extra piece of pie on Thanksgiving.
Personally, I also think that if you MUST have sweets or chocolate or empty calories EVERY single day of the week… It is difficult to save up for a night out with friends, you only see once a year. Even things like Skinny Cows and other “diet” or “WW friendly” treats… a person eats a Skinny Cow every single day… that is 770 calories a week. Personally, ESPECIALLY during the holidays… but really all year round… I think that it works better to skip that 100-200 calories worth of treats… and use them out with friends and family and special occasions. Watching TV on a Tuesday night… isn’t worthy of using up 100-200 calories. Especially if you know you are going to a nice dinner out or a party or out for drinks on the weekend. It is REALLY hard to have enough empty expendable calories to do both… the sweet after dinner every night… and party with friends on the weekends. In my not so humble opinion.
The Washington Post Lean Plate has a Holiday Challenge every year… and the goal is to maintain over the holidays. That is my goal.
I print out this
weight maint chart… and I even go as far as to color it in… (this is one of Nelson’s charts).
It is a lot easier to pass up Santa cookies and chocolate dreydls at the December Band Directors “Working Dinner” meeting… when I’m looking at this weight chart ever day and watching my weight slowly rise out of the green, thru the yellow, into the red zone. Personally, I’d rather be in the green… than eat chocolate with coworkers.
I also think that there is something to be said for a FIRM commitment.
I WILL
NOT GAIN WEIGHT THIS WINTER! Rather than, “I’m really going to try really hard this winter not to gain… It is really hard because I have a lot of work and family parties… and I really can’t resist cookies and egg nog… and I’m not sure that I really want to do it… I don’t want to be a party pooper or anything… but I think I might try and maintain this holiday season… I don’t know. We’ll see how it goes.”
I make it every year and don‘t gain… January 5 or 7th, I’m at the same weight as I was on November 8th. I might make it by the skin of my teeth… and I‘ve never ended the holidays losing weight… but in 4 holiday seasons… I have not gained.
I take immense personal satisfaction in this. This is sort of sick and mean, but I REALLY like to get on the scale on January 7th and saying, neeeeener, neeeeeener, neeeeeener!!!! I didn’t gain!!!!
Denise