We have been told that MIL is in the final stages now. She had a really bad night last night and the Hospice nurse believes that she also had a stroke last night. She can't walk by herself anymore and she isn't eating much and can't keep very much food down when she does. She was also talking out of her head last night.
I would like to ask you to please keep MIL and our family in your thoughts and prayers. I'm also so worried about DH and about what I am going to tell DS. DS is always talking about "Nannie", I know that he is going to keep asking questions for a while.
Cathy, I am so very sorry to hear about your Mother. My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you, your mother and your family. I pray for your family to find comfort and peace also. ((((HUGS))))
MIL was able to eat supper last night & keep it down. She also slept well last night and was able to talk to all of us today. She had asked DH to bring DS, she wanted to see him, so we brought him to see her this morning. I think that "perked" them both up a little bit.
Thank you SO VERY MUCH everyone for your prayers and kind thoughts. I can really feel it helping all of us.
It is one day at a time and one hour at a time now. I know that our Good Lord has his own plans and that he will never leave our sides. I have been (and continue) to thank him for that and pray for him to hold and comfort my MIL. I SAW this morning that he is!
I'll continue to keep you all updated and again I appreciate all of your prayers so much!!
My prayers and hugs go out to both of you too, ske and Cathy. Remember to take good care of yourselves right now, as hard as that may be, because you can't be there for others if you aren't there for yourself.
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Posts: 7211 | Location: Rehoboth Beach, DE | Registered: March 12, 2004
I am definately praying for each of you right now. I know what a difficult time this is, probably for your husband above all. It is so hard to see your parents age and become weak. When my dad had his first stroke, we didn't even know it and we just thought he was depressed. My dad was always such a strong man and our supporter, so watching the decline is very disconcerting. I think seeing the woman who met your every need growing up, become lifeless is very painful and I hope your husband handles it well. I am so sorry for all your pain. There is a wonderful children's book. I am not sure how old your son is. It is called Nana Upstairs, Nana Downstairs. It is the story of a little boy and his relationship with his grandma and great grandma. The great grandma passes away. You should take a ride to Barnes and Noble, or check it online. I know you will love it and I highly recommend it.
Posts: 1374 | Location: West Florida | Registered: March 12, 2004
My grandmother died when my son was a little younger than 4. We explained death and read a book or something. He was there when we packed up her house and I thought that he kind of understood the concept. I was kind of surprised when about a month later, he asked, "Is Grandma done being dead, yet?"
Just do the best you can explaining it. You may have to explain it many times over several months. Your son will see that you and dh are very sad. That is ok.
I understand and know what you are going through. My mother is in the last stages also. Although they said probably before the New Year, that could be today or next week. I am so sorry. It has got to hurt like heck, and the feeling of not being able to do anything is horrible. Keep talking to her, keep touching her, the hospice people told us that this was as good for them as for us. I have to admit, that I am not looking forward to the moment my mom is gone, but I know she goes to a better place and will be much more comfortable and happier. I hope that this can give you some sort of peace, also.
Prayers and hugs Cathy J
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Posts: 3451 | Location: Central USA | Registered: March 11, 2004
Ske, I was so worried things might come down to this right at Christmas. I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you, your DH, DS and your family are able to find support and comfort from the Hospice resources. Take care of yourself and know we are all thinking of you.
I'm so sorry to hear the news. I will be sure to keep all of you in my prayers.
As for your ds, just be honest. Take the opportunity to express your family's beliefs about death/after life, etc... He will know that something is up and by knowing the truth, it will prevent him from imagining what's happening (which can be much worse).
If you need resources, call the hospice and talk to your mil's social worker. There are some wonderful books out there for kids and explaining the illness and passing of family members.
Lots of love and hugs, Brie
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