Sending big hugs Laurie, I know that must be hard. I agree with the others, I think you are very couragous by even considering going.

Dawn

Oh, Laurie!

{{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}

I know from personal experience that this can seem so cruel right now. Even my sister made remarkss she didn't think about, but I found very cutting after my 2nd miscarriage.

I applaud your ability to smile and visit with the others. The best answer for the Nosy Nellies about when you plan to start a family is "When God let's it happen."

You're in my prayers, sweetie.

Linda

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Originally posted by Laurie:
I am having a rough day. Yesterday one of my best friends had a beautiful baby boy, tomorrow is my cousin's baby shower, this morning I saw another cousin's wife who told me they are expecting. I just want to hide away. I would have been due May 27. Now tomorrow I'll have to put on a brave face and smile every time someone asks when Matt and I are going to start a family. I've never wished for a 24 hour flu before, but this would be a good time for one. I do know I'll be making a very quick escape from the shower.

Laurie

Big hugs to you Laurie! I applaud you for having the courage to even go to the shower. There were many that I bowed out of when I just couldn't handle it.

Good luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking about you.

I am having a rough day. Yesterday one of my best friends had a beautiful baby boy, tomorrow is my cousin's baby shower, this morning I saw another cousin's wife who told me they are expecting. I just want to hide away. I would have been due May 27. Now tomorrow I'll have to put on a brave face and smile every time someone asks when Matt and I are going to start a family. I've never wished for a 24 hour flu before, but this would be a good time for one. I do know I'll be making a very quick escape from the shower.

Laurie

quote:

Originally posted by GoingSkiing:
One more week of band! One more week of band!!!

I hear you.
See my post in today's hw thread.

My elementary school band trip is to Great America tomorrow. Got to-do list 3 feet long.

Not worried about food... bag lunch... pizza at G.A. and a cone at McDonalds on the way home.

<Sing song voice>
One more week of band! One more week of band!!!

I love it... but I'm tired! I don't want to hear Dragon Slayer ever again (although I borrowed the Jr Hi gong yesterday and it sounded VERY cool!). (If YOU would like to hear Dragon Slayer... go to www.JWPepper.com and search Dragon Slayer. )

Looking forward to the band competition part... but mostly...

One more week of band! One more week of band!!!

VERY cool Sheri! I would be happy too.

Dawn

Okay, this is a silly thing, but I am just so happy, I wanted to post about it. I apologize cuz I need to give a little history first.

Last October, while in Delaware visiting my best friends, I found a pair of brown leather shoes at the Easy Spirit Outlet that I loved. They were a half-size smaller than I usually wear, but they were slip-ons and I know how much and how fast Easy Spirit leather stretches, so I knew they'd be falling off in 2 months if I got them my regular size.

Because I loved them so much, and because my Delaware friends live right down the street from the Easy Spirit Outlet, I put another pair, in black or blue, on my Christmas list and gave style/size information. They EACH got me a pair of the same shoe, one in black, one in blue. When I got home, I could NOT get the black ones on to save my life (yes, I checked, they are the same size as the brown ones). My brown ones had been tight at the start, but nothing like this. The black ones were SO tight, they were physically painful within seconds of putting them on (and some days I couldn't even GET them on). So I had never worn them outside the house because they were so painful.

I am going to Delaware this weekend and intended to take the black shoes to see if I could exchange them on the sly. This morning, just on a whim, I decided to try once more. They fit! And were not painful! Now whether I just hit the right combo of socks and low edema in my feet, I don't know, but THEY FIT! I'm wearing them at work as I type this. LOL

Like I said, such a silly thing, but it made me SO happy because the brown ones are such comfortable shoes and it killed me to not be able to wear the black ones (not to mention that they weren't cheap).

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Originally posted by SheriaVa:
I was proud of myself today for making the Mother's Day call well before noon instead of procrastinating all day. We spoke for well over an hour...maybe close to 2 hours. It was without a doubt one of the best conversations I've had with my mother in years. It got awkward toward the end, when she started talking about how my brother doesn't call her much anymore, etc. etc. but, on the whole, it was a very good call. I am feeling very positive about that.

Sheri,
That is such good news! Hopefully next time you call her you won't have as much anxiety.
Jill

Big hugs to Sheri, Cate, Kat and Steph, and anyone else having a tough day but finding a way to get through it. I hope you can all end the day on a positive note!

After getting back in town last night I realized all I had consumed while being away. Although I was more aware of what I was doing, I am still not happy with myself and the choices I made.

Today I did make to the grocery store and stocked with some really great things. I am feeling quite good about my week ahead.

Also, the day I left I did get myself into the gym VERY early and had a wonderful workout. I was thinking about that today and thought I am going to start doing that again. With summer now here (the heat and such) I think this is a wonderful way for me to enjoy my mornings MUCH more.

Plan of Action: I will get take the dog out first thing and then head right to the gym. I can spend an hour there come home and have 3.5 hours to do what I need to here. On the days I work I will spend some of that getting ready for work.

Thanks for listening.

It is DH's 40th birthday today. His mother died when she was near 40 so it is a tough day.

I have been grocery shopping and in the last 1hour+ I have baked a cake, gotten the frosting made, made sloppy joe mixture for dinner tomorrow night and made a big pot of soup for my lunches this week.

We are going over to my mom's for dinner at 2 and my dad is making it. After that we will go to the cemetary.

The sun is out which makes me smile

I feel ready for the week ahead. I am up 7 pounds which is the most I have gotten up since I made goal a year and a half ago. I haven't been able to exercise due to strained back. I must figure this out before I am truly out of control!

Got dinners figured out for the week so that should help!

Well, I'm a little down today. Wore a very cool belt, and no-one commented on it. Also, the pro-life committee at church were handing out bottles to fill with $, and I got nabbed by the director of religious ed and the pro-life guy and asked to join the pro-life committee and "save the babies". *sigh*

They wanted me to help teach the children about saving the babies, and not about the "choices" that the kids hear about on the news, and in school, etc etc.

*sigh*

I wish there was an easy avenue of communication on this subject.

I was proud of myself today for making the Mother's Day call well before noon instead of procrastinating all day. We spoke for well over an hour...maybe close to 2 hours. It was without a doubt one of the best conversations I've had with my mother in years. It got awkward toward the end, when she started talking about how my brother doesn't call her much anymore, etc. etc. but, on the whole, it was a very good call. I am feeling very positive about that.

{{{{Hugs to Kat}}}} Sorry this is stressing you.

Have you been open with him about how you feel? Don't expect him to do it just because you think he should. Men are famous for saying "I'm NOT a mind reader!" but it's really the truth...none of us are mind readers, so we have to be clear about what we want and need from the people in our lives.

Another thought...could he be depressed? I apologize if you've already posted about that, but it's hard to remember what everyone posted abou their situations and sometimes I have trouble keeping straight what is one person's situation vs. another's.

Kat,
I'm sorry you are going through this. I was in a relationship with someone who NEVER took an interest in my life or my dd's life. Never went anywhere with us, never asked how things were, and would not do the simplest task, left it all up to us. I can totally relate.

For me he was not my husband so I think there is a big difference here. Granted we were together for 8 yrs but I think because this is your husband it is a different situation. I got to a point where I stopped doing things, unless it was with him and dd because for some reason I always felt guilt for being away(some of this was because he said things to make me feel this way).

I would like to second that you might want to ask the questions you posted here. Is he open to talking with you about things like this or will he shut down?

Sending you hugs.

Jill

Kat,

Might you try asking HIM some of the questions you poised here?

Linda

Things at home are still rocky. I feel like I am on a roller coaster cuz one day seems fine and then it is down hill for a while.

Today was a 14 hour day at school. I was in charge of the Spring Art Show (k-5) which I love doing, but it is a lot of work. This is our 2nd year and it is very successful. I have been working on it for weeks. I did it last year too.

DH has never asked what exactly I do for it, how it goes or what it is like. He has also never volunteered to come to it. It is sooooo frustrating. If the shoes were on the other feet I would be all over it...asking questions and going to show my support!

I came home exhausted tonight, but also a little wired (which is why I'm here) and he didn't even bother asking how it was. He met me at the back door to let the pup out and then heard a favorite song on CMT and ran with excitement to watch it. I wish he got that excited about seeing me. Not ONE word about my day or the show....it makes me sad.

I sat on the couch (after eating 3 slices of pizza) and then announced I was exhausted and going to bed. He is still glued to his music videos.

I asked if he was taking doggy out and he said "either me or you if you want" which of course means he doesn't want to. So after being on my feet for at least 10 hours+ I took her out (she wanted to chase a rabbit...too funny). How come he can lay in his chair, take a nap, order pizza, watch his videos and not do a simple task????

Thanks for letting me vent about this. I could go on cuz crap is going on at work too. I feel like I am in middle school sometimes with some co-workers!!!!

Goodnight and have a fabulous Friday!

Well, after starting out the day not so great. (I got to work late, so I didn't have time to make my healthy breakfast. I ate a South Beach Bar, which wasn' too terrible...then the 1/2 price bake sale called me because I was still hungry...) At least I bought muffins and not brownies or chocolate covered macaroons.

Anyway, at lunch I went out and walked for about 20 minutes and then came in and heated up my homemade lunch. Leftover jerk pork chops and vegetables and couscous.

Dawn

I had a sort of fun NSV last night that made me feel pretty proud of myself. I was working out with my personal trainer and I asked him about doing a doubles session with one of his other clients (it's cheaper that way). He laughed, and said, "I don't have many other clients who could keep up with you. It'd have to be one of the high school kids I work with..."

I thought he was just kidding me, but he was serious. I'm not sure how a teenage boy would feel about working out with an old lady, but it was pretty cool to think my fitness level is getting to that point.

Now, could somebody please tell me how my love handles are surviving all these workouts?!?

PS - Good job on taking that step, Sheri!