Today is a very sad day, and I'm having a hard time not eating the whole bag of snack size M&Ms! Our elderly cat died this morning. He has had a tumor on his thyroid for some time now. Yesterday afternoon he started having what I think were seizures, and he started throwing up. We don't have the $$ to have him put to sleep, but knew that that was what we needed to do. I prayed that God would take him during the night, and this morning Cedric was still alive. I kept an eye on him as he wandered around the house going from one favorite spot to the next trying to get comfortable. After a couple of hours I went to check on him, and he was gone. He was lying on the floor in my kids' bathroom, and he looked horrible, but he was gone. Oh folks, I know that he is no longer in misery, but my heart hurts so much! I hate losing anyone, but this one has been so difficult! My husband came home from work to take care of Cedric's body for us, and now he's back and work, and I'm really lonely and sad now! My kiddos are feeling it to. My dd#1 told me that she feels really tired (I told her that the way she is feeling is normal under the circumstances, but if she continues like this for more than today, to please tell me).
Well, I'd better go, I need to make lunch....I just needed to share with you all what is going on with me. I will probably be kind of quiet today, and maybe tomorrow.
Blessings,
Lori
Re-committing myself to a healthy lifestyle that will include regular (and increasing) exercise, and following the baby steps rule on food. 6/17/08
Posts: 3149 | Location: California | Registered: March 11, 2004
I am so sorry for both of you and your losses this week. I was just sobbing while I read your messages because I have two cats that are getting on in years (14 and 15) and they mean the world to me.
Your pets were lucky to have such loving and caring owners.
90 day goal: 4 days of cardio, 3 days of strength training each week.
I am sorry about your loss...To me my cat (precious) is my baby and would react the same way. I feel for you.. Please remember the goodtimes and joy that your kitty gave you.
((hugs)) Heather
Heather Goodbye excuses!! Lets achieve those weight-loss goals!!
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Posts: 871 | Location: Atlanta | Registered: April 13, 2004
I am right there with you. On Monday we had to let our dog go. She had been sick for a while (bad heart and cancer in her spine) and we decided when we had to we would let her go. We took her to the vet Monday afternoon, her heart was failing so we let her go. I stayed with her the whole time but I am so sad. I miss her so much. We knew it was coming but I didn't anticipate it being that day.
There is a great book called Dog Heaven and there is also one called Cat Heaven. Both are by Cynthia Rylant. I checked it out of the library to help my husband, me and our little girl.
So hugs to you, I am in the same place and I know how hard it is.
Pam
"Habits are like supervisors that you don't notice." -- Hannes Messemer
I'm so sorry to hear about Cedric. It is a sad day for the whole family when a beloved pet dies. I think grieving and honoring Cedric as a family will bring all of you a lot of comfort.
When I was a teenager, my childhood dog, Scampy, died. My parents had been separated for several years by this point and they had never been back in the same room with one another since the day she left. But, when Scampy died, she drove 10 miles to be with us and we sat, as a family, at the dining room table and cried with a box of tissues in the center of the table. It gave me a lot of comfort that this was something important enough to my parents that they would set aside their differences for a short while to grieve with me and my brother.
Hang in there, and be well.
Posts: 7354 | Location: Rehoboth Beach, DE | Registered: March 12, 2004
Lori, I am so sorry about Cedric. Loosing a furbaby is VERY hard. They become like kids and like family. Since he was in your family for so long, he was part of your family. You are feeling all the things you would feel if a people-member died. And so is your daughter...
We found it VERY helpful when our dogs had to be put down, when I was a child, to hold a funeral. (We did this for goldfish over the toilet, too) We all found something that the reminded us of our friend, and we told about a favorite moment...when we first got him, when he did something funny, when he got in trouble, etc. We cried, we hugged, we planted a tree for each dog that died....we have four trees in our back yard at home that were planted for our dogs. We said prayers that God would take our baby over the Rainbow....thinking about it now, it was very comforting to cry, to hug, to remember over the following days. Sometime, not soon, your kids will start remember the happy times with your furbaby. And you will laugh about him....but the time to mourn is now.
I will say some prayers for your family...it's gonna be a rough couple of days. But you will make it.
OH, there is a sight, called "Over the Rainbow" for people who have lost pets....in fact there are several, but this is the best. Check it out when you can. Have kleenex handy, it's a very good support group for people who love creatures great and small.
(((HUGS)))) Cathy
It's never too late to get it right.
Posts: 3473 | Location: Central USA | Registered: March 11, 2004
quote:Originally posted by cate: oh *hug*. The death of a pet is so sad. Can you guys plan a little family "memorial" service for this evening or tomorrow? Have each member of the family write a little something, and maybe light a candle for him?
Figure out music, all that kind of thing... and have your own little service. Print out the thing about the rainbow bridge, for each child?
Take time for yourself too, but try to encourage each other to share both the grief and the good memories of Cedric.
*hugs* until you feel better.
Catherine
We did have a simple little funeral when our Casey cat died in August, and we will do the same thing either this evening (we have church this evening, but I think that two of my girls would rather stay home....so they will probably stay home with Don while he buries Cedric) or tomorrow evening (more than likely). Cedric is going to be buried wrapped in his favorite blanket (he has had hours and hours and hours of fun with this blanket over the past 14 years...I will be losing one of my favorite wool throws but I'd rather him have it than me), and we will plant a rosemary bush over his grave (he and Casey always rolled around in the rosemary at our old house).
Blessings,
Lori
Re-committing myself to a healthy lifestyle that will include regular (and increasing) exercise, and following the baby steps rule on food. 6/17/08
Posts: 3149 | Location: California | Registered: March 11, 2004
Thank you all! I'm doing pretty well food wise. I had 2 M&Ms (single m&ms not bags ), and a slice of my fat free chocolate banana bread (actually by the time all the kids had a bite, it was 1/2 slice). I made homemade whole wheat and corn tortillas and we had bean burritos for lunch, and dinner will be comfort food as well.... egg foo yung with mushroom gravy fried brown rice stir fried veggies
Blessings,
Lori
Re-committing myself to a healthy lifestyle that will include regular (and increasing) exercise, and following the baby steps rule on food. 6/17/08
Posts: 3149 | Location: California | Registered: March 11, 2004
oh *hug*. The death of a pet is so sad. Can you guys plan a little family "memorial" service for this evening or tomorrow? Have each member of the family write a little something, and maybe light a candle for him?
Figure out music, all that kind of thing... and have your own little service. Print out the thing about the rainbow bridge, for each child?
Take time for yourself too, but try to encourage each other to share both the grief and the good memories of Cedric.
I'm sooooo sorry to hear about your cat. Our pets are our family members and the loss of one is sometimes just as hard as losing a human member of our family.
Do what you need to do to grieve, just don't go overboard food wise, it won't sooth your pain and may cause more in the end.
Hug and love on all of your children today, I'm sure they are upset too.
Dawn
"Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You have to set yourself on fire." anonymous
Posts: 4334 | Location: Indianapolis, IN | Registered: March 15, 2004
Lorie, when my Friskie passed away, my friend sent me this. It is so beautiful and I thought you might find it comforting!!............... Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Posts: 1384 | Location: West Florida | Registered: March 12, 2004
Sorry about your kitty -- give yourself and the kids plenty of time to grieve. Losing a pet is very hard and I think sometimes people don't realize how difficult it is.
----------- Jen
Posts: 2868 | Location: Ohio | Registered: March 11, 2004
), and a slice of my fat free chocolate banana bread (actually by the time all the kids had a bite, it was 1/2 slice). I made homemade whole wheat and corn tortillas and we had bean burritos for lunch, and dinner will be comfort food as well....
