My heart is just aching for DH right now. I can't really go into details,but I think most of you know how much he has been working over the last 18 mos, and particularly the last 8 or so. That in and of itself has caused major stress on my part.

Well, in the end, his company chose him to "throw under the bus". I am truly dumbfounded that they have done this.

I know that several of you are unhappy with your current employer or career. I say this to you now. "GO find something new, and make haste." Company loyalty doesn't pay off!

I have known this for a long time, but I have just witnessed it very close to home.

Dawn

Dawn --the only thing I have is a cyber hug for you. I hope that it will clear up soon.

Tina

Apparently today they were stumbling over themselves apologetic.

DH wasn't nearly as upset about it as I was, so maybe I was over reacting.

Dawn

Dawn, I'm so sorry that this has happened to your husband (and you and your family). ((((HUGS)))) Unfortunately in this day and age, sometimes hard work and loyalty aren't rewarded but it seems "politics" rules the roost.....

My prayers are with you, your DH and your family.

Dawn,

I know from my own work history as well as my dh's that this is the pits.

Fortunately each time this happened to me, I was able to eventually portray a Phoenix and rise from the ashes - even better than previously seen.

I hope the same will be true for your dh.

Linda

((DAWN)) I am so sorry. I think we ache and hurt more because we know what time, effort, energy these men we love have put into their jobs...and let's face it, in America your job defines your life as a man. Unfortunately, companies are as loyal to their employees as they were in our parent's day. And thus, the boss' wonder why their employees don't care. This is why. Please, give that man of yours a lot of TLC and yourself some too. We have been there and thought we would pass on without that job. But, my dh found something that he loved more than engineering and that was being a chef. Your guy can either change careers or find something different, but for now, it just hurts, and I am deeply sorry.

(((Dawn)))

I am so sorry. It is awful that the loyalty and hard work that your DH demonstrated was tossed aside. I hope and pray that he will find a new job where he will be appreciated and rewarded for his hard work and loyalty.

Kathy

{{{Dawn}}} I'm so sorry to hear things are even worse with his job situation. I really, really hope he is able to locate a new job with more satisfaction, more work/life balance and a better situation all around. I know you aren't thrilled with what you are doing either and I'm sure this impacts your ability to find a way out for yourself too. Hang in there and know you have lots of love and support here.

Peg

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. It seems like this is happening everywhere. A dear friend just called me last week suffering the same downsizing.
This may sound hokey, but I believe that everything happens for a reason. Something positive will come out of this.
In the meantime, now might be a good time to get out that lacey chemise in the back of the closet. You'll have your minds off the situation in no time. Winks.

Dawn,

I am sorry to hear that you all are going through this. Please just remember if you need me I am here.

Dawn,
I am so sorry to hear. Dh has been through job stress to during the past 6-8 months. It has taken a significant toll on him, on me and on our marriage. I hope we are over the "ugly" hump.
Sending support.

I'm so sorry to hear the news Dawn.

Unfortunately, we've been their too, twice actually. The last time was more like Denise's dh's situation - basically everyone got fired.

The first time though was more like your dh's situation. My dh ended up leaving on his own accord because the writting was clearly on the wall.

I hope that your dh has a successful job search and ends up in a position where his skills/talents are appreciated it.

Again, I'm sorry that you are going through this. I know the stress can be terrible.

Big hugs your way.

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Oh... I'm so sorry. We went thru this in Dec. and are sort of still in the mist of it. DH has had LOTS of interviews and expects offers soon. I'm blown away by how long the interview(s) process takes for management positions.

He was at his company almost 17 years. It sort of helped that 600 others were laid off with him. Some of the people he respected VERY much and thought it was very dumb to lay them off. But it is still hard not say, "What if I had __________ (worked harder, worked smarter, worked longer,______). Although, working harder or longer was almost not physically possible.

It was also hard because it was a huge part of his identity. He had worked for his dad for a few years out of college (and recuperating from a brain tumor) and had worked at Adobe nearly his entire adult life.

He is doing fine with the interviews and seems to have landed on his feet. He is looking at it as an opportunity to move on to something he will enjoy more (hopefully).

Sending best wishes to you and dh and your family.

That is so heartbreaking, Dawn. We've been there, and it really is tough on a man. I had no idea when my husband was layed off the damage it did to his self-esteem. Betrayal is what it is -but because it's in the professional world, people can't call it that. But it feels personal. My brother is going through it too, and he got a lawyer because he was aware that his rights had been violated. Is there any chance of that in your case?

Big hugs to you, Dawn, he's going to need you to build him up like crazy now! I'm glad he has a great lady like you to come home to today

Lynne

Dawn, Instant Karma's gonna get them!!

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Originally posted by Tayhudson:
[...] They blamed something on him, without using his name, in documents that will become public record.

They didn't use his name, but they did refer to his position. Even if outsiders don't know who they are refering to, he knows, and people inside the company know.
Dawn

Oh,no. that is terrible. And probably even worse than just getting rid of him.

Maybe it will lead to something much better in the future.

Thanks everyone. They haven't actually let him go (yet). But after what they've done, he'll probably have to find a new job, I know I would.

This may also be a case of "make him so miserable he wants to quit". They blamed something on him, without using his name, in documents that will become public record.

They didn't use his name, but they did refer to his position. Even if outsiders don't know who they are refering to, he knows, and people inside the company know.

Dawn

{{{Dawn}}} It makes me SO sad to hear these kinds of stories...I am a Libra and unfairness and inequity drive me BATTY!!! Wishing you and dh the best as you navigate through this period of your life. I hope he finds a new job that he loves!!!

P.S. People can say what they want about the Federal Government but, when I hear these kinds of stories, I am SO thankful to be working for the Feds. There are all kinds of laws with the Feds and you can't just be dumped for no reason. Unfortunately, those laws are used as a reason to keep under- and non-performers around and THAT is why the Feds have the bad rep they do. But there are also hard-working, dedicated people like myself who are doing their best, so don't believe everything you hear!

Dawn,
I can't imagine what you and your DH must be feeling right now. It is so sad to hear that companies are more interested in lower pay for less skilled employees then investing in the people who have been dedicated and loyal for so many years.
Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers,
Jill

Dawn, I am so sorry !! It is true though, these guys are super loyal and then they are the first to go.

My husbands very close friend has worked for their company now for about 25 years and he was recently let go. How about this one though:
This guy was in the middle of relo. He had just been offered a job in another city, sold his home, was about to go to closing. They let him go right in the midst of that, no severence or anything, just goodbye.

My understanding is that many big companies are doing this now. When you reach a certain level of pay for a position, it is just easier to let you go and bring in some new college recruit and pay them a lot less money.

My husband has been with this company for 18 years. A lot of people really like him and he does a great job, but there is no such thing as job security anymore. Our guys are loyal and really do go to the far degree to do good for their company, but there is no loyalty to employees. They love you one minute and dump you the next.

I will keep you guys in prayer. Just support your husband and be extra patient with him. That is a big blow to a man's self esteem and he may need a little extra understanding right now.